Clairvaux Manifesto, page 181

(quote) It’s time to abandon the idea that we can avoid suffering. Suffering is the key to authority. Those who suffer well lead others well through it—and well beyond it. Don’t think that you won’t be alone as you suffer. Joseph, Daniel, and Esther suffered well away from home. Mary and Martha suffered well in their home, throughout their brother’s sickness, death, and burial. Then there were Peter, James, and John after the crucifixion. They were in anguish; totally alone.

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